In10tion of the Week: Perseverance

It is pretty amazing as you become more insightful and aware of your thinking patterns, how you recognize that everyday things become metaphors in your life. Metaphors of how we handle situations where we feel uncertain or insecure. And because we run our patterns like clockwork, without even thinking, it is so easy to start a thought process that we know isn’t serving in a snap..just because it is always what we have done. But what is awesome is when we have the ability and the tools to stop going down the rabbit hole, and create emotions that evoke confidence, determination, and the attitude “I got this” instead.

I had the pleasure of attending a charity event yesterday for two young boys who were effected by child abuse in their family. The unfortunate part, is the one little boy passed away due to the severity of the abuse, so the organization wanted to raise money for his brother’s trust fund. It was a very emotional situation and I really wanted to support this cause.

The event was held at an athletic center and involved a series of workouts with push ups, stair climbing, jumping…it was pretty intense! Now I consider myself a pretty healthy person, but not an athlete by any means. And I will be the first to admit that I am “push up challenged”. Plus, I was attending this event solo, as my two friends who I had recruited to join me had to decline. So I was walking into a situation not knowing anyone, not knowing what to expect, and nervous about my physical endurance and ability. I was totally out of my comfort zone and there was a part of me asking myself “What am I doing here?”. But the cause was important to me to support these boys who couldn’t speak for themselves. Instead of being sucked into my doubts, I asked myself “How can I help?” and contributing to this event both monetarily and energetically would be one way that I could.

The workout was challenging! I had some head trash going on, with thoughts of doubt and self-consciousness by the other participants watching me. There was one particular exercise I did where I was exhausted and moving a little slower and my self-consciousness started to kick in, which for me can lead to feelings of insecurity and embarrassment, causing me to shut down or self-criticize. And in that moment I kept telling myself, just a little more, just a little further. It was important to me to finish on a couple different levels and I persevered. I stuck it out and did my best. And that is such a powerful metaphor for how we should live our lives each and every day.

This week, I encourage you to focus on the in10tion of perseverance. You are capable of doing amazing things and handling the challenges of your life when you follow through with what is important to you. You are stronger than you think and when you combine your beliefs with perseverance, that creates a powerful fuel for you to feed off of.

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Have an amazing powerful week with amazing powerful in10tions!

Much Love,

Melissa

In10tion of the Week: Trust

Maybe it’s that time of year where I am in self-reflection mode, or just circumstances of what is going on in my life, but I am finding that lately I have been thinking alot about the choices I have made this past year and the path that I am going on. I feel amazingly confident with the decisions I have made so far. Moving forward with my career path as a life coach and stepping into the unknown has been a huge part of my growth this year, and although it has been scary and uncertain at times, I have ABSOLUTELY no regrets. Putting myself out there with the publication of my book In10tions and actively sharing my work with the world has left me very open for potential critics, yet I am at ease with this openness, due to my belief that this work will impact the lives of so many people. Making some very difficult decisions about my personal life, my relationship, and my beliefs about love..what I am seeking and what I desire as a partner. Within one year’s time, I have made some major life decisions, and through my own work with coaching and spiritual exploration, I feel confident that the changes I have made are in alignment with who I am at my authentic core, which is love, growth, and contribution.

Yet, I have to admit, that lately, and especially as this year has been winding to a close, I have been experiencing some self-doubt. Second guessing some of my decisions..am I on the right path? Did I choose the right choice? In some ways I am afraid. In other ways I am scared shitless. The uncertainty can be very unsettling, of not knowing how things are going to go, how they will end up, and how I will feel in the process.

So this week I am focusing on the in10tion of trust. Too often we base our decisions on other people’s opinions, but how often do we look deep into ourselves, our judgements, our voice? Whose voice are we listening to when we make those important decisions, ourselves or someone elses? What do we need to trust? We must start first with trusting the process, and more importantly, trusting ourselves. Trusting that we know exactly what is best for ourselves, what we need to do, and that whatever decisions we make will be the right ones. That we are capable for making the best decisions for ourselves, based on our intuition, because our intuition will never steer us wrong.

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Trust yourself. You know yourself best. You know exactly what you need and exactly where you need to be. You are amazing.

Have an amazing week! Loving in10tions to you!

Melissa

In10tion of the Week: Surrender

I had the most amazing 5 day break over the Thanksgiving holiday! I headed to southern Delaware with my best bud Baron and spent the weekend with my family. We didn’t do anything in particular, just lots of eating, movies, napping, and more eating (followed by more napping). I got to spend some time outside before it got too cold and Baron and I enjoyed alot of afternoon walks. It was nice to escape, enjoy simple things, and wear yoga pants all day.

The last day of my holiday-cation, my brother and I went to a hot yoga class and I realized:
1. I need more yoga in my life. Like now. Like asap.
2. It is SO easy to fall into old patterns of worry and self-doubt.
3. Practicing yoga while falling into these patterns can make your head spin.

I had been looking forward to this class and I found myself really not enjoying the process when I first started. I was all in my head, thinking about all of my to do lists for this week and worrying about things in the future. Things that may happen, things that hadn’t happened yet, and things that might not even happen at all, but hey, let’s worry about it anyway! Yoga is so much more than exercise, it really gives you an opportunity to tune in and practice presence, to let go of any expectations, and to be in the moment. I was definitely not in the moment. And for those of you that practice, you know what happens when you are all in your head trying to hold a warrior pose…your breath becomes more shallow, your body starts to shake, and you get frustrated really fast.

I am on this journey like all of us are so I really had to snap out of it fast. How was worrying about things that hadn’t happen or might not even happen going to serve me? Plus I was really looking forward to this time with my brother, and to cloud it with all of my self-doubts was making it a bummer. I had to remember the in10tion of surrender.

I have talked about surrender before and keep coming back to it. It is such a powerful and significant in10tion. It does not mean you are giving up; on the contrary, it is such a powerful movement one can make on their path of empowerment and enlightenment. We hold on to SO much baggage, SO much B.S., it is no wonder we are SO tired. We can make amazing changes in our lives and we have influence over our destiny, but until we fully grasp that we cannot control anything else but ourselves, we will continue to go down that rabbit hole of self-doubt and insecurity. At some point in our game called life, we have to surrender, let go, trust that everything is working exactly as it should be. And it is SO hard to do this. And sometimes it REALLY sucks. And even worse, sometimes things don’t work out as we had envisioned them. But maybe in retrospective when we look back, they worked out exactly as they should have in that moment. And we get the lesson that we needed in that moment or figure out the lesson later on. I most recently had my greatest lesson when I finally surrendered, when I realized I can’t control everything, but that doesn’t mean things are going to fall apart. I learned that there is always another way and this lesson has been so valuable in my personal growth, giving me so many other choices to set myself up for success.

I am not negating any of the challenges you are having now. And I am not saying to stop fighting for what you believe in. But what I am encouraging is to adopt the in10tion of surrender this week, focusing on your internal peace and faith to accept things will work out as they should.

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I know I will be coming back to this in10tion often this week and going into the new year. It is so powerful to open your arms and be fully exposed and vulnerable to surrender. You become a warrior who fights from a place of true power, with an open heart, vulnerability, and truth. Fight your battles this way and victory will always be on your heels.

Be amazing this week! Set your in10tions with integrity! Love to you!
Melissa

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